Women view men as complex creatures but they’re not. We try elaborate methods to get and keep their attention while missing the obvious. A plunging neck line or a short skirt will get a glance but it won’t get his heart.
What will?
Respect. Plain and simple. It’s the failproof road to his heart. Respect is the language of men.
Want to learn his language? Drop the sarcasm. Sarcasm instantly shuts him down from any meaningful conversation.
I learned this the hard way. Sarcasm was the only way I knew how to talk when I was upset. After many arguments with my husband Bill, I finally realized that sarcasm is totally ineffective. Now when we get into a conflict I eliminate the sarcasm and just communicate why I’m hurt and how I want things to change.
He can deal with that. Most men can. Respect works every time.
Amen sister! I’m always surprised by the many ways I convey sarcasm to my husband. It’s not just sarcastic words, but it’s my tone, and the classic “eyeroll.” All combine to say “I don’t take you seriously.” Ouch!
I totally agree! I feel like this is the missing link. If women would do this, sincerely, everyday there would be many more men out there who would have the confidence to take risks, and step up and be real, sacrificial leaders in their family. Anyone who wants good, practical advice on this should read “Love and Respect” by Emerson Eggerichs. The “For Women Only” part gives you some good ideas of what to do if you’re not sure how to start.